WHAT EVERYONE OUGHT TO KNOW ABOUT FRIENDS/FRIENDSHIP

           There is a popular saying: “Nearest is the Dearest,” (maybe not in distance) but in relating with others. friendship is the bridge between being alone and fellowship. Friends are people who makes happiness grow brighter.

    In our contemporary world, there are great achievers, men and women that have accomplished mighty thing. These successful people have reached the top through the contribution of other people effort in their life’s. The above sentence gives relevance to the saying: A tree never makes a forest

Is the saying correct?

Am quite sure a couple of things are presently running through your mind, irrespective of what your answer may be, the truth remains that a tree never makes a forest. A dense collection of trees covering a large area defines a forest. It is also important you know that this trees that make a forest are very helpful to another, they need one another to survive and also to make an existing forest. In comparison with life, if you desire a dense collection of achievements, beautiful & colorful destiny, you want to go far & fast in life, you need like minds (Friends) to walk with. Friends are very important, their quantity is never a criterion, but the worth/value of the one’s you have is more crucial.

 

 Who is a friend?

     A friend is a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically one exclusive of sexual or family relations.

What is friendship?

          Friendship can be defined as a relationship of mutual affection between people. It is a stronger form of interpersonal bond than an association.

From the above definitions, it can be deduced that there is a similarity between both words which is mutual affection: it means a reciprocal strong attachment or feeling of love to one another

What is friendship About?

      There are a lot of false ideology about friendship, some set of folks believe friendship never last, some believe friends always betray, while others believe good friendship does not exist. In all honesty, friendship require a lot of commitment to make it worthwhile, Friendship is not about you, it is about the other person, how does he or she feel about your thought, actions and decisions. This is the basis of every true friendship. Treat your friend/friends the same way you would treat yourself. Please note that friendship should be a conscious agreement by both parties. Don’t ever be a friend to someone who is not your friend, it is going to be very disastrous. When you have a strong attachment to someone kindly communicate your intentions genuinely, ensure the person is willing to be your friend, don’t ever force someone to be your friend, it is not wise!

 

 The following are what a good friendship is about:

  Keeping Another’s Secret

        Your friend must always be assured that his/her secret is safe with you, he/she must never doubt your loyalty as to keeping whatever secret has been shared with you.

Meeting Needs

         Every good friendship must always meet each other’s needs, when you have financial, accommodation & feeding challenges, your friend must do a little to help if he/she cannot totally meet the needs. Show me a man that watch his friend starve, I will show you a hypocrite.

   Solving Problems

        One of the aims of good friendship is to solve one another’s problems. Your friend must be available for you in hard times and help you fight your battles. True friends always share whatever they have, irrespective of the quantity.

   Confidant

           The quality of every good friend is trust, your friend must know you as a trustworthy person and must also confide in you to share his/her problems with you without any worries and having full assurance of its safety.

It is best to know that some are friends for a season, some for years and some for a lifetime.

How to make your friendship last longer

     The following are things to avoid in building and keeping friendship:

 a) Deceit                                                         g) Negative words

 b) Insecurities                                                h) Lies

 c) Gossip                                                         i) Indiscipline.

d) Pride                                                             j) Jealousy

e) Strive                                                            k) Anger

f) Envy

No one wins or achieves success in isolation, Friends are not those who are (only) able but are available.

Benefit/Importance of Friendship

        The importance of good friendship is innumerable, there are quite a lot to gain from good friendship. Your companion in life determines what accompanies you, also the quality of your friend determines the quality of your life. Importance of good friendship are;

    Growth & Development

        Good friends help you to grow and develop yourself in every areas of your life, they also help you to become a better person.

      Correct & Teach

             Every genuine friend always corrects you whenever you are wrong, there is no perfect person therefore what you think is right might actually be wrong. Aside correction, good friends also teach and guide you on the right path

         Success

             Your friend will always want you to succeed in life, therefore a genuine friend will provide you with the needed support and also stand by you to succeed in life despite the situations/circumstances, a friend will always be there for you.

 

 Being a good friend/finding good friendship

     It is not as difficult as it seems to be a good friend/finding a good friendship, all you need to do is to be a good/better person. Good things come to good people, when you are good, good friends will locate you.

Disadvantages of Friendship

     Most people believe there are disadvantages of friendship, however if disadvantages exist, they are not as beneficial as its advantages. i.e. the advantages outshine the disadvantages. It is important you understand that your friend is also human and can therefore make mistakes. Yourself and your friend are from different background, perhaps different ethnic groups and even different perspective and understanding of subjects and topics, hence the differences and weaknesses in character and behavior.

Understanding always precedes outstanding in everything we do in life including friendship, when there is a proper understanding of the differences in your attitudes, managing these differences will not be an issue, you will also be exempted from the negative experience people encounter in friendship.

In conclusion, Good friends give good life, being alone is never an option, it does not solve the problem, it rather escalates your troubles. Everyone needs a good friend in life, get yourself one and enjoy a pleasant sojourn on earth!!

There are friends and there is family and there are friends that become your family.

A single rose can be my garden..

A single friend my world. (Leo Buscaglia)