HUMILITY OR GENTILITY; WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT HUMILITY.

    Everyone thinks humility is gentility, can this be true? The fact that a person is pious, does not mean s/he is also humble. Most times, humility is best described as how you treat others, and not how you walk or talk. This means humility is beyond your personality, it is relational.

There is something interesting about the proud and humble, the proud usually talks more and even do a lot of showing off. You will also agree, that the humble listen more than the proud. The same way friction makes the tire move easily on the road, is the same way humility makes life, more comfortable.

Amazingly, humility does not reduce anyone, it only increases. Research has also proven, that the heaviness of the bad correlation between unplanned life events and depression, happiness, life and satisfaction is relatively low among humble people.

However, people share their different views when it comes to age, gender, status, background etc. in relation to humility. These factors should not be a yardstick to your humility. If you desire to be humble, then it has to be accomplished with absolute integrity and respect for people irrespective of these factors.

If your humility is defined by your status or class, then it is not worthy of emulation. People think humility is bowing down or communicating in a friendly tone, which is not true. Although, humility is not friendliness, quietness, stupidity or lack of ability/confidence. 

It is also proven that people find humility impossible, because of their class or position. Furthermore, these factors should not affect humility, but rather trigger humility. It is worthy of note, that humility is possible and practicable, only if you desire!

Here comes the interesting part.

What is Humility?

Humility is usually been misinterpreted by people; some think humility is thinking less of yourself, while others think humility means lacking confidence. None of these definitions are correct, humility is not only about yourself, it also has an intrinsic connection with others.

Humility is best defined as the ability to be moderate or having a modest view of one’s worth. Remember, “empty barrel makes the loudest noise.” Furthermore, humility is never incompetence, it is simply the expression of honor towards other people.

Humility is directly proportional to reality, whenever you see a proud person, I can assure you, he is only a counterfeit! No wonder Thomas Merton said “pride makes us artificial, and humility makes us real.” If you desire a real and humble life, then read on as you find answers to your question.

How to be humble.

It has been proven that most people do not like to be around a braggard, as a matter of fact, no one likes a braggard! to be humble, you need:

Meekness: There is never going to be a talking about humility, without mentioning meekness. It is a person ability to be teachable, submissive and modest. Meek people are always good listeners, they listen more than they talk.

You cannot be humble, if you are not meek! meekness, is the first step to humility. Without it, humility remains a dream.

Respectfulness: This means showing huge regard to other people. It shouldn’t be as a result of their status, age or gender, but should be for every human. Yes, read that again. It is crucial that you are concern about other people opinion, feeling and even abilities in your dealings with them.

The truth remains that, we are not the same. Others might not be as intelligent, strong or bold as yourself, but that doesn’t make them lesser. Everyone deserves respect and you should learn to respect people irrespective of their status. Respect is a seed, when it is sown, it always germinates.

 

Being Realistic: Acknowledging your present state and status without any overestimation of yourself, makes you humble. As stated earlier, only proud people are fake people, see yourself as you are, and do not be a braggard. 

One of the advantages of being realistic is that; it makes you contented and open for growth. If you are not realistic, you might never be humble.

Conclusively, humility is a virtue! Everyone needs it and must possess it. Real genius is nothing else, but the supernatural virtue of humility in the domain of thought. – Simone Weil 

Humility is not rocket science, it is practicable and achievable. With humility, you can be assured of a better life.